Friday, 5 October 2007

Allowing it to evolve

I’ve been fairly quiet about how things are going with Tel Aviv, mostly because I have a slightly superstitious streak when it comes to relationships. I don’t want to jinx things by blabbing when things seem to be going fairly well, and things with Tel Aviv do seem to be moving along quite nicely thank you, but then again I thought that about my relationship with Gobshite, I thought things were going marvellously and then he dumped me out of the blue, so what do I know? Clearly nothing!!

Despite my well known preference for keeping mum when it comes to relationships a few of my friends have recently started making far too many inquiries about how things are going between us. How do I feel about him? Can I see us staying together for the long term? One close friend even asked ‘do you think his mother will mind that you are not Jewish?”

Um, I haven’t a clue, I haven’t really thought about what his mother might think in the 6WEEKS WE’VE BEEN DATING. I’ve been far too preoccupied picking out bridal gowns and wondering what we will name our children!! NOT!!!!!!

Excuse my language, but what the fuck!! Clearly someone has far too much time on her hands if she’s busy pondering where my relationship is going and already wondering how his mother might react to my not being Jewish. She’ll be choosing herself a bridesmaid dress next. Somebody needs to get herself a hobby and sharpish!!

All in all I think its going as well as can be expected given it’s really only been 6weeks since we started seeing each other. I remember when I met him – it’s etched in my memory because it was on the same Saturday in early August that my friend
Francesca almost got squashed by a roller skating Tim Robbins. We met when I bellied up to the bar at Park, just off Union Square on 15th street, to order drinks for myself, Francesca and Jacqui and he turned and started talking to me. The usually teetotal Tel Aviv now claims he only did this because he was drunk….on Corona Lights of all things. Charmed I’m sure!!

After that it took him another week to call and ask me out, so our first date wasn’t until towards the end of August, so when you think about it it’s been no time at all. So far I’m enjoying his company very much, he’s laid back, lots of fun and has a sarcastic sense of humour that I like a lot, but I’d say we’re still firmly in the ‘let’s see how this goes’ phase. I’m really not one for rushing things and like to let relationships evolve at their own pace, I’m certainly not one of those girls that starts wondering where things are going after a couple of dates. That being said things seems to be moving along quite smoothly so far, although of course now that I’ve actually written a blog post about him my superstitious streak is flashing warning signs that he’s probably going to dump me faster than hot shit off a shovel.

Only time will tell, but keep your fingers crossed for me!!


Amel's Realm said...

Hey, Fish, forget about superstition and just ENJOY your time with him he he he...And I AM crossing my fingers for you. AND TOES! *grin* Ouch, it hurts so much to cross my toes hi hi hi...LOL!!!

Anyway, I find it crazy if someone starts asking me those questions if I've only known a guy for 6 weeks he he he...That's way too fast!!!

Anyways, shine on, Girl!!! ;-D

fishwithoutbicycle said...

Thanks Amel, that's just what I'm trying to do, but some of these friends of mine keep clouding my thoughts ;-)

Mark Dykeman said...

I hope you continue to have fun!

david mcmahon said...

G'day from Australia,

Followed your link from Victorya Chase - enjoyed my first visit here.

kitty said...

well, the honeymoon period (or whatever you'd like to call it) is the best time of all.

Enjoy it!!! :-)

Flowers On A Friday said...

i'm doing my good luck dance for you now!

it's's like tap dancing feet with "be a tree in the wind" arms. it's something special, i don't mind telling you.

it'll me. i'm an idiot.

Amel's Realm said...

Hey, Fish,

Yeah, I know what you mean.

Anyway, I wanna share this award with you:

Schmooze Award

Ha Ha Sound said...

I think you have the right attitude. Just enjoy your time with him, and have fun. And don't let your superstitions gum you up. I'm the same way, but think about it this way: if all it takes is for things to go sour is for you to write a blog post, then it's not worth it, anyway. And I'm sure that's not the case. =+)

And as someone who's Jewish, I can say that if he likes you then he's not going to care what his mother thinks. Besides, not everybody's parents are like that. If they're cool, they'll just be happy that he's met somebody that he likes.

Good luck with it all, Fish. =+)

Blur Ting said...

Yes, just enjoy your time with him. Don't think so much into the future. If he's right for you, he'll be there many years down the road.

thewishfulwriter said...

quick. pour salt over your shoulder, turn around 3 times and pierce your left earlobe (up high) and you'll be in good shape.

trust me. it kinda works.


So happy things are working out so well...i trust you'll keep us posted if we need to send any shower gifts...

Agnes Mildew said...

I hope you continue to have a great time with him - I didn't realise you had actually met normally - lucky you! I have no concept of meeting anyone outside of an internet chat room any more!! Although, between you, me and the gatepost, the company lech has taken a fancy to me - oh, the shame! This is despite me pitching up to work displaying a black eye this week...he mustn't be fussy!

alcoment said...

Yep, just carry on as you are, just enjoying your time together and not stressing about where it's going - leave that to other people who may have too much time on their hands!

fishwithoutbicycle said...

Hi Everyone, thanks for stopping by.

Sorry for the lack of response to comments recently, I was out and about enjoying the Holiday weekend in New York.

Thanks for the advice and well wishes. Fish :-)

Ha Ha Sound said...

Hey Fish, hope you enjoyed the holiday yesterday.

Did you see my reply to your comment from earlier today? =+)

fishwithoutbicycle said...

Hey Ha Ha, I did see your comment, just having a v v busy day. Were you serious??

If so, email me at and I'll see how many lovelies I can rustle up. I feel like a pimp ;-)

Ha Ha Sound said...

Ha, that's pretty funny. No need to feel like a pimp. =+)

I did email you back. Hit me up whenever you get a chance.

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